WEEK 5 | Emotions | Contempt & Shame


Rejecting Love/intimacy

Contempt (Google’s definition): 
1) The feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn. 
2) Disregard for something that should be taken into account. 
3) The offense of being disobedient to or disrespectful of a court of law and its officers. 

Contempt (Tim’s/Allender's definition): 
1) A reaction to affection of bitterness in attempt to avoid future hurt. 
2) An attempt to protect yourself through mocking the affection giver. 

Psalm 22:6-8

6 But I am a worm and not a man, 
scorned by mankind and despised by the people. 
7 All who see me mock me;
they make mouths at me; they wag their heads; 
8 “He trusts in the Lord; let him deliver him; 
let him rescue him, for he delights in him!” 


2 Corinthians 11:30

30 If I must boast, I will boast of the things that show my weakness. 

Shame (Google’s definition): 
A painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior. 

Shame (Tim’s/Allender’s definition): 
Feeling exposed as ugly (or useless) beyond words. 
An escape from reality through dissociation 

Romans 2:1-4

1 You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. 2 Now we know that God’s judgment against those who do such things is based on truth. 3 So when you, a mere human being, pass judgment on them and yet do the same things, do you think you will escape God’s judgment? 4 Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, forbearance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repentance?